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Lowe’s Build & Grow

Looking to do something fun and free with your kids this Saturday, September 24th? Hop online now and register for a free Lowe’s Build 7 & Grow class. Seats fill up fast, that’s why I say register now. Most start at 10AM and this weekend the kids are going to build a Fire Boat.

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Lowe’s Build & Grow Fire Boat project for Saturday, Sept 24th

Here’s the link to their site so that you can check it out and see if there are any more spots available. Lowe’s Build & Grow Program

Have fun building!

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Life isn’t fair…

It has been so long since I have posted on this site. Where does the time go?

My personal and professional life has been a mess for the past (almost) 4 years.

On the positive end: We had another daughter who we call Tiny Destroyer! I made it through two summers of craziness to complete my Masters in Economics! My husband and I celebrated our 14th year anniversary!

There are more positives, but they just get swallowed by the negatives that have overshadowed my life.

In the spring of 2012, my father was diagnosed with ALS, or Lou Gehrigs Disease. It crushed my family. He was an amazing man, who did everything for everyone and was never sick. ALS robbed him of everything that made him who he was. He was one of the people who also had cognitive issues as well, so by the end, he could not communicate, even with electronic device help. Before he died, my husband agreed to move into my parents house so that I could help take care of my father and support my mother through this. Trying to go to their house everyday to put him to bed, get his feeding tube bag set up, give him all his medication, and run our own household while working, having an infant and older daughter starting kindergarten was too much for me. Soon after we moved in through, my father took a turn for the worse and he died on September 29th, 2013. He was able to meet and hold Tiny Destroyer, but she will never know him. She will never be able so hear his laugh, or hear his storied about all the amazing things that he did in his lifetime. My older daughter will have fuzzy memories of him, but not the man that he was.

My mother did not handle the loss well. They had been high school sweethearts, married for almost 40 years, and she lived her life for him. She sunk deeper into alcoholism, which had been happening for some time before his diagnosis, and a year later she died from complications from the alcohol abuse. She was so stubborn that she waited until October 29th to breathe her last breath so it could be a year and a month to the day since my father died.

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My girls walking on the beach.

By Spring 2015, my parents were cremated, and they had wanted their ashes spread together in Florida. They were born and raised there, so we took them to Longboat Key that they loved to visit so they could spend eternity together walking on the beach together. After that, my husband and I took our girls to Disney World and had an epic adventure there for a week. Buffering the grief with a wonderful vacation was just what we needed.

 

So now, here we are in Fall of 2016 and my daughters are looking at loss again. My husband’s father is sick. The doctors don’t know what is causing the main problem so they can’t help him. He is in the hospital and we are just playing the waiting game.

We have no religious beliefs ourselves so I do not have the comfort of thinking they are going to “God”. I have the confusion wanting to know why this is happening again. I have the anger that this isn’t fair! My daughters, especially my now 8 year old, should not have to live through this amount of grief at such a young age. They should not have to grow up not having 3 of their 4 grandparents. I should not have had to lose my parents when they were 59 and 61 years old. My husband, sister in law and mother in law should not have to lose their dad and husband at 60 years old.

People tell me that life gives you what you can handle. Well guess what, I’m tired of life thinking that I can handle all this! I can’t. And yet, I push through, usually to the detriment of myself and my needs. Now I need to support my husband as he supported me. I need to make sure my girls, especially M, feels safe and loved as she goes through possibly losing her third grandparent by age 8.

It’s not fair….but I guess life’s not supposed to be fair.

 

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Free Saturday Activity at Home Depot

If you’re looking for something to do this Saturday morning, Home Depot has a once a month Kids Workshop where the kids can use tools, glue, and paint to create different crafts.  This Saturday from 9AM-12PM, the craft at Home Depot is a wooden frame for the winter season.

I highly recommend getting there early so that you definitely get to make the craft that is scheduled for that month.  By the time we finished the craft at the last one that we attended, the kids that were showing up had to make an older craft because they ran out of the scheduled one.

It’s also super cute because the kids get their own Home Depot Apron (kids’ sized), a pin for the craft they made and a certificate of completion.  Home Depot does a really good job with this.

 

 

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Whoops

Apparently it has been almost a month since I have posted.  Whoops.  Time really seems to fly once the school year starts.  Trying to make sure my lesson plans are engaging and complete! Grading the mounds of papers that they complete. And still having time to be a good mother and wife.  I am exhausted.

We’ve been pretty busy every weekend too.  After our camping adventure, we had LittleM go Rock Climbing at Delaware Rock Gym for my niece’s birthday.  That was nerve-wracking for me.  Watching my baby (I know she’s 4 but she will always be my baby) climbing 20 feet up from the ground was a little much for me!  She had a fantastic time though and climbed up and down quite a few times in 2 hours.  Then we had a Rutgers football game the next weekend to go to.  My dad played for them in college and still has season tickets so we drove my parents up to see one of the games with them and tailgated with their friends. LittleM had a good time because she got a new football for us to play with.  We also got the pumpkins for Halloween by going to Milburn Orchards.  I was a little in sticker shock because it was $10 a person just to get in. I understand they only have a short season to make money, and Supply and Demand from economics, but I just wasn’t expecting it.  LittleM had a fantastic time and we all had a nice nap after that trip! 

This weekend we have no plans. I don’t know if we’ll know what to do with ourselves with no plans.  I’m hoping for a pj day.  It’s supposed to be rainy on Saturday, pjs, are the way to go.

Coming up though, if you have never ridden the Wilmington and Western Railroad, I highly recommend checking them out on October 28th for the Halloween Express. They have the train running at 12:30, 2, and 3:30.  You can get half price tickets for your kids if they dress up in their Halloween costume, and there are people working on the train that come around handing out candy.  Right now it is a beautiful ride on this train because of the amazing colors of the changing leaves.  Tickets are $13.50 for adults, $11.50 for kids 2-12 years (but don’t forget to wear the costume so they get half price tickets).  It’s a really great time and I hope you get a chance to enjoy it.

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Camping!

Tomorrow my husband and I will be taking LittleM camping for the weekend.  This will be her second trip but what makes it even more exciting is that friends of ours with their two little girls (who are also friends of LittleM’s) will be going with us!

Tonight will be the big pack where we get everything together, pack as much as we can in the car, and get everything else ready to grab and go when my husband gets off of work on Friday. 

LittleM is deep in her princess phase where she refuses to wear anything that is not a dress so I have been prepping her for 2 weeks that this weekend she will have to wear pants.  I want her to be warm enough and protected as we hike, camp, and explore the local caves near where we’re camping.

We’re going to be camping near the Crystal Caves in Pennsylvania so I can’t wait to check them out.  I have never been in a cave before and there is only one in Delaware that you can’t visit anymore because it’s on private property.

Is there anything that you think is imperative to bring on a camping trip?  Anything that you can’t live without?  I would love to hear what you think we should bring in the comments!

Have an adventurous weekend!

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Halloween Costumes Gone Bad

Halloween is quickly approaching so all the Halloween costume stores have come back, along with costume catalog junk mail.

Am I the only one who thinks that costumes, even for small kids, have become really inappropriate?

Here is are a few from the latest catalog we got in the mail.

This one is “Lacy Witch Costume”.  I’m sorry, my kid will not be going out in that outfit.

Bratz Bratty Nurse Costume.  Are you kidding me?

 

This pose for the little girl pains me more than the actual costume.

 

All of the costumes were found under the “Kids” heading next to “Babies/Toddlers”.  Not even the teen section. I’m afraid to show you what the “Teen” costumes looked like.

What message are we sending to kids when these are the basic costumes that can be found everywhere.  I don’t know if I’m overreacting but these little girls just look way to sexualized to me.  The short skirts, tight clothes, provocative poses that can be found everywhere now makes me nervous as my LittleM grows.  I don’t even let her watch the regular Disney Channel anymore because I don’t agree with the way girls are portrayed and the clothes that they wear in some of the programming  (especially Shake It Up, which also has 2 costumes you can buy for Halloween).  Thank goodness for Disney Junior.

So, am I overreacting?  I don’t know.  I just know that I have to do the best that I can for my daughter to raise her to be a proud, smart, strong woman.  To know that she doesn’t need to follow the herd and to take pride in herself and the way that she dresses.  This may be harder than I thought.  :-/

Good luck wading through the Halloween inundation.

 

 

 

 

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Please Touch Museum Half Price Tickets

I just found a great deal on Living Social thanks to my neighbor.

For 4 more days you can purchase half price tickets ($9 instead of $18) to the Please Touch Museum in Philly and it includes a Carousel ride.

Here the link  http://www.livingsocial.com/cities/1747-philadelphia-citywide/deals/451662-one-admission-ticket-and-one-carousel-ticket

You do have to have an account with Living Social to purchase the deal, but it’s a free account.

You will have to use these vouchers by December of this year, so please keep that in mind if you are interested in buying the vouchers.

Have fun!

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Happy Birthday Hubby!

August 9 is my husband’s birthday.  He is choosing to ignore how old he is becoming and just focus on the celebration of it!

This July we celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary! (How did that happen already?!?) Even though it has been 10 years, he still continues to surprise and remind me on how wonderful a person I married.

For his birthday this year, my husband hosted a fundraiser.  No, it wasn’t for him to buy all the presents that he wanted!  My father was just diagnosed with a pretty debilitating and progressive disease.  Not only has my husband been amazing in supporting my emotional needs, he has also been so willing to help at my parents house in whatever they need. For his birthday this year, he chose to surprise us all and host a Birthday Happy Hour Fundraiser to support the group that is in charge of my Dad’s care!

He was amazing using all of his connections to get everything donated so 100% of the profits could be donated to the group.  He was able to get a space and food, silent auction items, and a singer for entertainment. Through all of his efforts and the support of friends and family we were able to raise a little over $2000!  We are so appreciative of all the support that have gotten and continue to get from friends and family.

So Happy Birthday Hubby!  You are an amazing man, amazing dad, and amazing husband!  I love you.

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Scissors Are Not TOYS!

We had the dreaded finding yesterday.  The one where you find your child with scissors and hair.  Thankfully LittleM didn’t seem to get too much of her hair off but it still was a shock to find her doing that.

The blame is not all LittleM’s.  It was my fault that the scissors were accessible to her.  They were little folding scissors that I had in the library bag (which I use to cut coupons when we go because our library has a basket that they put the coupons in) and forgot because I normally have them in my wallet.  This is what they look like.

Here’s how it all went down.  I had sent LittleM upstairs to find a small tape measure she had taken from me and things seemed a little quiet up there.  My husband and I had both called her and asked what she was doing, both times she had a valid excuse for still being upstairs even though she “couldn’t” find the tape measure.  We both went upstairs to finish getting ready to leave and I could hear my husband in LittleM’s room and he did not sound happy.  I walked into LittleM’s room and saw my husband with the scissors and a chunk of hair.  Then we saw even more hair under her bed, which it looked like she tried to hide.  Not only had she cut her hair, but she had cut a tag and “hair” off her Perry the Platypus doll.  Once she realized she had been caught, the meltdown ensued.

I have never seen my daughter get so upset.  She was so upset that we were upset at her, I thought she was going to start hyperventilating. Not once had we yelled at her.  But, once we got her calmed down we explained how it is not ok to play with scissors and if she wants to cut something to tell Mommy and Daddy so we can get paper for her to cut.  She also had lied to us when we asked her about cutting her hair until we found it on the floor.  So we had the discussion about how it makes Mommy and Daddy more upset if she lies to us than if she just tells us the truth about what happened.

Here is what I have realized from this fun experience:

1. When my kid is quiet, she is definitely getting in trouble.

2. Don’t underestimate what your kid can do when they really want to.  I had no idea that LittleM was able to open those folding scissors, I can’t even easily open them up every time.

3. My daughter is really sensitive.  Anytime that we try to correct her, she has what I call her “defense mechanism”. She immediately starts sniffling, tells us that she loves us, and wants hugs.  Not that it’s a bad thing to want hugs, but getting to the point of almost hyperventilating yesterday is not the way I want her to go.  And I swear we didn’t yell at her at all!

As many people have told me since yesterday afternoon, cutting your own hair with scissors is almost a rite of passage.  But it has been a good reminder to me that LittleM still is little, and I need to be more aware of what I have lying around that she can get into.  No matter how mature I think she is, even though we are beyond the “baby-proofing stage”, she’ still only 4 years old.

The adventures continue to make our life interesting!

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Fun Indoors for the Upcoming Weather

Aside from Tuesday and Friday, the weather in Northern Delaware looks rainy this upcoming week.  What is the difference between “Scattered Thunderstorms” and “Isolated Thunderstorms”?  It sounds the same to me.  So, based on that weather report, here are some ideas of indoor activities:

Saturday, July 14:

1. 10:30AM Family Music Time at Kirkwood Library (Free)

2. 11 am is storytime at Barnes and Noble at the Christiana Mall. A really cute story area, great train set to play with, play area in the mall in front of Target if they get bored there. (Free- unless you can’t leave a bookstore without buying anything, which is totally me!)

Tuesday, July 17: Lots of ideas to choose from

1. 10:30AM $1 movies at Regal Theaters with their Summer Movie Express.  People’s Plaza is showing Kung Fu Panda 2 or Rango, Rt 202 is showing Adventures of Tin Tin or Puss in Boots.

2. 10:30AM Newark Library Storytime and Craft. This is usually pretty busy so be prepared for that. (Free)

3. 11AM Barnes and Noble Storytime (Free)

4. 1PM Family Movie at Newark Library (Free)

5. 10AM -3PM Terrific Tuesdays at Winterthur Museum (see previous post for costs)

Wednesday, July 18

1. 10:30 Regal Theaters- see #1 for Tuesday above.

2. 2pm “The Disenchanted Dragon” play at Kirkwood Library. (It’s also being done at 10:30 at Newark Library but I think it may be less busy at Kirkwood). (Free)

Thursday, July 19

1. 11AM Storytime at Barnes and Noble (Free)

2. Delaware History Museum– This is located in Center City Wilmington on Market Street.  Tickets are $6/adult, $4 for kids 3-18. They’re open 11AM-4PM.  The museum is great, lots of interactive stuff for the kids while learning about Delaware History.  What’s great though, and why you should get some friends together to go with you is that you also get into “Grandma’s Attic” in the same building.  Tons of Playtime Activities with a school setting, store, kitchen, puppets, dress up, books, etc.  LittleM had a great time there.  It’s open Wed-Fri 11-4, Saturday 10-4 and if you want to wait it’s FREE admission on the first Friday of each month.

Friday, July 20

1.10:15 Learn to make your own Sidewalk Chalk at Hockessin Library but registration is required so make sure to call them and reserve a spot. 239-5160. (Free)

I hope this gives you some fun ideas to keep everyone busy and entertained during this possible rainy week!  Let me know if you find anything else that you want me to add or share your adventures that you have during the rain!

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